There are things that you can say to your children to make them behave, as I heard on the Caltrain going back to San Francisco last Monday.
“Woowoowoo, Mommy loves you so much! I’m just going to eat you up, you’re so cute!”
This is the unconditional love part. We have not yet reached the behavioral modification part.
In the background, there was an inexplicable deafening noise coming from one of the seats that I could not see. I believe that some behavioralists call this whining.
“And to you, if you don’t behave, Mommy’s going to sell you when we get off the train.”
“I’m going to sell you, and then you know what I’ll do with the money? I’ll buy lots of candy.”
“And I won’t have to share it with you, either.”
“Yes you will.”
“No, I won’t, because you’ll be somewhere else.”
I offer no judgement but it worked.